One hug too many...
Have you ever been hugged by someone and it been so amazing? like when you bump into a long lost friend unexpectedly one Friday afternoon?
But then again...
Have you ever been on the receiving end of a hug that got so intense, you almost passed out right there on the spot?
Sure, the other person was so happy to see you, and they wanted to express that to you, so they turned a loving hug into a squeeze which subsequently crushed both of your lungs and three of your ribs, till the only way you could stop it was by yelling out
"stop it man, you're suffocating me!"
and then the hugger just looks really hurt and mumbles
"I was just giving you a bit of love my brother..."
Well, that kind of what its like when you live in a Jewish community. Sure, everyone is so be busy giving loving 'hugs' to show so much affection and interest they have in who you are, how you dress & what you are doing with your 'life'.
However, sometimes - their interest (hugs) become so intense, that they begin to suffocate you to a point where you feel like saying
"hey man, can I get some *!@#$%*#* space and just be ME?!"
Its about time us Jews learnt how to tell the difference between a 'hug' and a 'suffocation'!
But then again...
Have you ever been on the receiving end of a hug that got so intense, you almost passed out right there on the spot?
Sure, the other person was so happy to see you, and they wanted to express that to you, so they turned a loving hug into a squeeze which subsequently crushed both of your lungs and three of your ribs, till the only way you could stop it was by yelling out
"stop it man, you're suffocating me!"
and then the hugger just looks really hurt and mumbles
"I was just giving you a bit of love my brother..."
Well, that kind of what its like when you live in a Jewish community. Sure, everyone is so be busy giving loving 'hugs' to show so much affection and interest they have in who you are, how you dress & what you are doing with your 'life'.
However, sometimes - their interest (hugs) become so intense, that they begin to suffocate you to a point where you feel like saying
"hey man, can I get some *!@#$%*#* space and just be ME?!"
Its about time us Jews learnt how to tell the difference between a 'hug' and a 'suffocation'!
posted by subjewd @ 1:22 pm
9 Comments:
At 9:12 pm,
Anonymous said…
I believe this hug serves either one of two purposes. (i) The well-meaning person doesn't realise they are suffocating you, and therefore require a n earful such as you spelled out.
(ii) They know very well they are suffocating you and are doing so intentionally. They are trying to stifle you, to cut off your air supply for they believe that the very air that you are breathing is noxious and dangerous to your 'health'. In their narrow eyes they are in fact saving you. A few broken ribs, or a cold shoulder is a small price to pay for saving a mans life.
Have you looked at it that way?
At 1:39 pm,
Ittay said…
Interesting comment about our community. A recent visitor from England, Clive Lawton, write a whole column in the London Jewish News about our antevka down under. You can read it on my blog.
At 4:17 pm,
Anonymous said…
The question is my man, not what the hug represents....but who you are hugging. If its a hat, you're set.....if not you're struggling....
At 12:27 am,
subjewd said…
Reb Yoelish,
a hat is a hat, unless its a cat...
At 8:09 pm,
Anonymous said…
Sometimes in our lives we come across someone or something that is so pure and amazing that it could only be a blessing sent by G-d.
Unfortunately sometimes people are blinded by other things going on in their life and they dont realise how lucky they are.
When such a thing happens and that person passes up this blessing from G-d they are clearly not even close to being deserving.
At 8:12 pm,
Anonymous said…
true dat
At 8:19 pm,
subjewd said…
anonymous...how I which you would use your real name, or at least an alias....
I wonder, so much. Am I blind? have I ignored truths so obvious and passed up on the oppertunity of a lifetime?
Am I only not deserving beacuse I became distreacted by the thing coming into my life?
Or, is it, because I am in fact not decerving, my eyes had no chance of even opening up to the reality of my blessing?
At 10:57 pm,
ifyouwillit... said…
You have hit it bang on. One thing I hated about my pre-aliya community was their habit to hug, delve and peer so strongly it just felt that the individual's behaviour and assoicates were more important than the individual.
At 1:31 am,
BFF said…
LUV YA MOISHA!
when salting meat to remove the blood, the blood never reenters the meat to make it non-kosher. why? coz of the halachic rule - when the meat is giving out blood, it doesnt absorb.
a chosid aspires to give his own blood to create an environment of his own. never to get affected by the s**t around him. those narrow, nosy, selfish, second-hander, uninspired, farchnocked ppl u'r talking about are affected by YOU, and getting scared about it.
trust me, i'm a rabbi, i know :)
keep on radiating the vibe....
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